Communication is a vital part of any relationship and it’s important not only to listen to the person you’re talking to, but to hear what he’s saying. Success of any relationship depends on the ability of the partners to share their concerns and to find a compromise if a conflict arises. However, not everyone is good at it and taking into consideration modern tendency to stare into the smartphone and ignore everything else one can’t blame those, who are inapt in the art of sophisticated discussion.
Nevertheless, if you decided to finally find yourself a loving wife you’ll have to start learning how to communicate, without being regarded as awkward. It is hard, but has to be done. So the first step is sending an e-mail to the lady you want to get to know. What is the best way to start communication? Well, first of all, don’t forget to mention that you are interested, but don’t push too hard, or she’ll think that you are not serious about the whole thing.
The first e-mail must also contain short description of what you do in life and what are your interests. Here you can describe your hobby, profession and hometown. Considering that a key to the communication is dialogue – ask some questions. For example what are her preferences in life, what music she’s interested in or whether she likes pets?
Remember that initially your questions must not be too personal - otherwise she’ll think that you’re a creep and will block you. For example it’s not ok to ask about her breast size in the first e-mail or how many men she dated. This will not be interpreted correctly.
After you receive a response, thank her for replying and prepare a new set of questions, which may now be a bit more personal, but not too much. You can also try to find common interests, for example if she indicates that she loves rock music and you happen to like it too – go ahead and write that in the e-mail. You can also recommend her some band she’s never heard of, maybe she’ll like them.
Don’t be discouraged if she writes to you regarding completely different types of music or books, from those you like. Remember, you’re talking to a woman, women tend not to care much about the music, they can be passionate about clothing, pets, shoes, but only rare ones show the profound knowledge of music and videogames.
You must also try not to overload her with the information that is practically irrelevant. For example, in the reply about the books you like, don’t list all of them; you should rather indicate the genre and one or two favorite authors. If she likes this genre as well – she’ll find them. If she doesn’t – oh, well – you’ve tried. Don’t get discouraged if the woman you’re talking too is not fond of the things you’re fond of – there is a good chance that she doesn’t know about all that stuff and you can be her mentor – showing her the whole new world of art, music, literature and etc.
Keep in mind that if the first two or three e-mails’ exchanges go well – you will definitely know that woman is interested in you and starting from here you can ask more personal questions. Which are they? It’s up to you!
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